Man of Their Lives
So today is Father's Day. A day I absolutely hated as a kid. Growing up I had no one worthy of such a title of Father or Dad. (That has since changed in my adult life- Happy Father's Day Steve!) My mom was always more than enough for me. She played both roles phenomenally. (Though I can only imagine the guilt and doubt that came as a single parent.) but enough about my mom; (Sorry Mom, it's not your day after all.) this is a post dedicated to my husband, who every single day, takes my breath away at how amazing of a father he is.
This man knew that from the very beginning, that no matter what ever became of us, I needed him to be the dad I never had as a kid to our future children. He constantly amazes me with how amazing, and completely natural he has fallen into this role. (I mean, really, he had an outstanding example growing up.)
He's never afraid to be silly- usually in public- usually to the laughter of the kids, and my embarrassment. He's always there for snuggles and hugs. He is willing to call while he is working if the kids just need to talk to him. He gives up pretty much all of his free time at home to spend time with the kids.
My kids totally take their Daddy for granted. Some days its hard to accept that. Especially from a parenting point of view. I mean, really- can you not see all the things he's overlooked because he wanted something better for you? Can you not see the pain in his heart when you choose Mom over Dad? Can you not see all the hours of lost sleep he's endured for you?
Honestly, no they can't. Daddy has been there since their first breath. In their eyes, he's been there all along and that will never ever change. They've always gotten just what they needed from their dad when they needed it (even if both Dad and the kids couldn't see it at the time). In their world, that is normal. Daddy is there- in the past, present and in the future. Daddy will always be there, being what they think is a normal, annoying, strict, silly, loving dad. All their friends have the same kind of dynamic. Why would they think it could be any different?
Only when they are older are the really going to appreciate all this hard work their Daddy has done. Then they will see that he didn't have to work 3rd shift for 5 years because it was a little more money and would be easier for babysitting. He didn't have to come home from a week of traveling and spend his only down time playing spot it and cooties. He didn't have to wake up in the middle of the night to calm their nightmares. He could have taken more time for himself- but gave it up for them. He's given up sleep, hobbies, toys and countless other things to be that amazing parent they needed in their lives.
To the man that is such an amazing Dad our kids think extraordinary is status quo- Happy Father's Day.